纠结于男校女校名校邻里学校的可以看看这个帖子
baronbaron • • 28862 次浏览
我看完的结论是：尽量上混校，一定要尽最大的努力上更好学校。
I was from a "branded" girls' school (A) , shifted to a co-ed neighbourhood school (T) in primary 5.
It was a huge culture shock tbh. I find that there are obvious differences in the way students in A behave compared to T. Like what @jammy_buttons said, I personally feel that girls from A conduct themselves in a somewhat "high ses" manner, like there is some form of "polish" in the way they act and carry themselves. However in T, people there were just... rowdy af. Those "aiya aiya DON CARE LA". I remember the very first day I stepped into T, I was literally taken aback by the badly vandalised tables, dirty floors, rusty windows etc.... It was like a blasphemy in which would NEVER occur in A. My classmates shouting "EH BANGLA" from the 4th floor down to the HDB carpark, carving their names on desks..... I was speechless.
In A, I was just an average student with very average grades. However, when I shifted to T, I kept topping classes without much effort and eventually topped the whole level in certain subjects as well. Classmates in T were like, "Eh did you pass? did you pass?" and for me I will be like, what do you mean "pass"? Just a "pass" aka 50/100 is never acceptable where I came from. Like in A, we never ever discussed who passed, it was more like, did you get an A? Even when I got a 65/100 in A I'd be very upset, much less anything lower than that. But yeah, when it came to grades, I sensed that expectations were not as high in T as compared to A.
This brings me to the point whereby our ministers say "ALL SCHOOLS ARE GOOD SCHOOOOLS" no. No. NO. Don't believe that shit. For someone who has experienced both, the environment you study in and the people you hang around with shapes you. Now I'm not trying to say that neighbourhood schools are bad. There are always things which are better, such as the kampong spirit and togetherness within the students. AND THE DEDICATED TEACHERS. I also feel that the teachers in T are more passionate about teaching and the wellbeing of their students compared to A. When I was in A, all I remember was that the teacher flung my workbook across the floor HAHA.
Obviously the kids in A are richer than the kids in T. Like their housewife moms would drive those Range Rovers and SUVs, waiting for their kids to end school, almost everyone could afford tuition so listening in class wasn't necessary. The facilities in school are also newer, cleaner and more advanced than T.
-
#1
那帖子很有意思谢谢分享
-
#2
看了以后第一感觉惨了，最好的那几个中学都是单一性别的
再一想，发现我想多了 -
#3
还好还好邻里小学的飘过
-
#4
乐赛是邻里小学？？
-
#5
嗯 是啊组屋区里面啊
-
baronbaron 楼主#6
kampong spirit是啥意思？high ses呢？ses是什么的缩写？看本地人的英语，总有一点点不知道啥意思。
-
#7
甘榜精神啊楼主是新来新加坡的吗？甘榜就是乡下的意思，甘榜鸡吃过吧？就是农村养的鸡，走地鸡。甘榜精神就是指从前新加坡还不发达时大家都住在乡下，左邻右舍互助互爱相处融洽的关系。随着新加坡城市化这种精神渐渐消失了。李总理公开演讲时就经常呼吁大家要重拾甘榜精神。网上搜到对kampong spirit 的解释：kampong spirit (uncountable) (Singapore) A sense of social cohesion in a community where there is understanding and compromise among neighbours, even as preferences differ from household to household.
Ses是socio-economic status的缩写，指社会阶层。high ses就是上流社会了，与之对应的是low ses。
多在本地英文论坛混就会知道好多缩写的意思了，联系上下文一般能猜出来。实在看不懂的就谷歌一下，关键词加singlish ，谷歌准能给搜出来 -
#8
lz是怎么从这个帖子里得出混校比较好的呢？看起来女校比较整洁啊，是觉得太端着了吗？
-
baronbaron 楼主#9
去链接里面看感觉同性交友异性交友都是个问题
-
#10
几乎都从混校出来的我们，当家长了纠结的是这些吧[–]haitherepeople
random personal observation from someone who went to a girls school: so many of my classmates or people i knew in my old school turned out to be lesbians later.....i mean so many of them, one part of me was really surprised by this while another was......not surprised at all
[–]sea_lecture
Do you agree that being in an all-girls environment for 4 years might help the gay girls...realise they're gay?
[–]haitherepeople
I mean.......if we’re trying to be politically correct the answer would be no, but with statistically the number of girls who’ve gone to that school and later come out tells a different story. Also my sister who’s currently in that school recently came out to me as well. Theory checks out.
[–]sea_lecture
Yeah, but I'm suggesting an alternate perspective that could also explain the outcome of your "theory". I personally don't find it surprising whatsoever because it can be easily explained - another user wrote in this thread that such an environment can make gay relationships feel more normalised, which I agree with. But YMMV.
[–]Darkblade48
O...oh god. We have to get rid of all boys/all girls schools now. Co-ed everything! Co-ed toilets/showers too, please!
Better make NS co-ed too (they're working on it)!
[–]pragmaticpapaya
A female JC classmate of mine who was from a girls sec school shared with me that girl-girl relationships are quite common in her school because the school environment is quite liberal.
Interestingly, she also mentioned that even straight girls sometimes 'experiment' with other girls to fulfill their curiosity.
[–]earthpotato
Same actually, I go to a boy's school, surprising number of gays
[–]hellostrangerhi
This was one of my theories too...all the lesbians I know are from a girls school. I personally believe that being LGBT isn't a choice, but I can't help but wonder about the high correlation between being gay and being in a single sex sch (especially during your formative years).
[–]givemethemorning
while correlation isn't causation, i think being in a single sex school kinda normalises this attraction. it was very common in my girls' school haha. so there's a certain level of normality there that literally nobody bats an eyelid when two girls start dating, which i assume would help with the coming out process.