自尊敏感，容易受周围环境影响的女孩的小一择校

各位大拿好，我是那个之前询问过Yew Tee Primary School育智小学的两个女孩的妈妈。本来已经选定这间小学开始憧憬以后的美好生活了，可是又因为最近幼儿园老师的评语纠结要不要咬咬牙送去莱佛士女小。
总的来说我家老大的性格是这样的：超级attention seeking，喜欢当猪头小队长，喜欢大家都围着她转给她拍手叫好。自尊上进心强但又玻璃心，给自己设定的目标很高，达不到就要放弃。语言艺术感知方面较强，数学逻辑思维能力较差。注意力不集中，容易受周围环境影响。以下是幼儿园老师评语：She showed good improvement in her basic & academicskills. She is very participative & she cooperates well with friends/peers.She can express herself well and she likes to share her thoughts after thelesson. However, she easily gets disturb and loses focus easily when given taskto do. With guidance, she will surely do better.
我想请问有经验的家长老师，这样的孩子，邻里小学和名校，哪个环境更有助于她成长为一个自信，上进，挫折商高，同时有能力欣赏他人的人？谢谢指点！